How to Talk to Your Child About School

August 06, 2018

Being apart from your child can be stressful. While they are away from you, you want to know that they are safe, happy and well. Perhaps you handle separation without stress, but it is still important to you to know what your child is doing and learning each day. The traditional “What did you learn in school today?” conversation is usually met with, “Nothing” or “I don’t know.”

There are better ways to find out about your child’s day and to open up communication:

  • First give them space. If you want to have meaningful conversations with your kid, bombarding them with questions right when they walk out of the school doors is not the best strategy. Just like an adult after a long day’s works, students often need to relax and unwind after the school day.
  • Choose the right time. Children talk when they are comfortable. Give them something to do with their hands or use a non-threatening time like family mealtime for conversations about school.
  • Ask open ended questions. Rather than yes or no questions, ask about favorite or least favorite parts of their day or say, “Tell me something that made you laugh today.”
  • Share about your day first. This makes your questions less of an interrogation and models the type of conversation you’d like to have.
  • Ask informed questions. Know about their schedule, teachers, routines, classroom and curriculum. Be involved. Spend time at the school, if possible.
  • Get creative. Ask unexpected questions such as “If your school were in a movie, which movie would it be?”
  • Above all, be a good listener. The best time to talk about school is when your child starts the conversation themselves. Be attentive. Avoid the temptation to fix problems or share advice. Just listen.

As children grow older you will need to adapt your techniques to stay engaged with them. If you follow these principles, you can become an expert at getting the information you need from your child and will build trust and understanding in your relationship.

The Benefits of the Montessori Approach to EducationUseful Tips for Negotiating With Your Child

Come Visit Us

Take a tour of our facility, meet our teachers, and ask us any questions you might have.

 (518) 346-2211
Recent Posts
Our Center
Our Child Care Centers work hard to facilitate learning through many various experiences. We are constantly fostering children’s learning experiences with activities in all of the essential areas; These areas include:
  • Cognitive
  • Gross Motor
  • Fine Motor
  • Social/Emotional
  • Language Development